You already have everything you need to create
a wonderful life for yourself. You know everything you need to know
to be your own best friend, a gentle guide, a teacher and a helper
to yourself so you can be truly happy and fulfilled.
You can learn how
to become your own psychotherapist for life, and how to resolve the
difficulties that stand between you and personal joy.
Be Honest With
point of becoming your own best friend is for you to be perfectly
honest with yourself and your relationships. Refuse to practice
self-delusion or hope for the best. For example, when something is
making you unhappy, for any reason, the situation will tend to get
worse rather than better. So avoid the temptation to engage in
denial, to pretend that nothing is wrong, to wish and hope and pray
that, whatever it is, it will go away and you won't have to do
anything. The fact is that it probably will get worse before it
gets better and that ultimately you will need to face the situation
and do something about it.
Deal With Your
Problem at a Higher Level
There's an old
saying that you can't solve a problem on the level that you meet
it. This means that wrestling with a persistent problem is often
fruitless and frustrating. For example, if two people who are in a
relationship together are constantly fighting and negotiating and
looking for some way to resolve their difficulties, they may be
attempting to solve the problem on the wrong level. Dealing with
the problem on a higher level, those people would ask the question,
"In terms of being happy, is this the right relationship for us in
the first place?"
Find the Right
Job For You
Many people work
very hard and experience considerable frustration trying to do a
particular job. However, in terms of their own happiness, the right
answer might be to do something else, or to do what they're doing
in a different place, or to do it with different people-or all
three. Here are a few questions for you to answer in this arena of
happiness. Write them down at the top of a sheet of paper, and then
write as many answers to each one as you possibly can.
What Would It
question is: "What would it take for me to be perfectly happy?"
Write down every single thing that you can imagine would be in your
life if you were perfectly happy at this very moment. Write down
things such as health, happiness, prosperity, loving relationships,
inner peace, travel, car, clothes, homes, money, and so on. Let
your mind run freely. Imagine that you have no limitations at
Holding You Back?
question is a little tougher. Write down at the top of a page this
question: "In what situations in my life, and with whom, am I not
perfectly happy?" Force yourself to think about every part of your
day, from morning to night, and write down every element that makes
you unhappy or dissatisfied in any way. Remember, proper diagnosis
is half the cure. Identifying the unsatisfactory situations is the
first step to resolving them.
question will give you some important guidelines. Write down at the
top of a sheet of paper these words: "In looking over my life,
where and when have I been the happiest? Where was I, with whom was
I, and what was I doing?"
Decide What to
Once you have the
answers to those questions, think about what you can do, starting
immediately, to begin creating the kind of life that you dream of.
It may take you a week, a month, or a year, but that doesn't
matter. Every single thing you do that moves you closer to your
ideal vision will be rewarding in itself. You'll become a more
positive and optimistic person. You'll feel more confident and more
in charge of your life, and you'll achieve true peace of
Here are three
steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into
your business and personal relationships carefully. Is there any
situation you wouldn't get into again if you had it to do
Second, make a
list of every single thing in your life that would make you happy
and then think about what you could do to begin achieving
yourself to dream and visualize about your ideal life, what it
would look like and feel like, and then do something every day to
make it a reality.
Brian Tracy's "The New Psychology of Achievement"
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